10 signs you never really loved each other, according to psychology

1) You never really bonded

The advice here is simple: If you feel that you and your partner didn’t share enough deep and meaningful experiences together, it’s possible that what you had was not love, but a surface-level attachment.

2) The relationship was based on convenience

If you were together because it was easy because they lived nearby or worked in the same place, rather than because you deeply desired to be with them, this could be a sign you never really loved each other.

3) The future seemed vague

if you struggled to picture a shared future or if discussions about the future invariably led to discomfort or arguments, this could be a sign that you never truly loved each other.

4) There were more good times than bad

A relationship that was mostly filled with fun times and hardly any conflicts or challenges might indicate that you were in a state of infatuation rather than true love.

5) You were more in love with the potential

If you were always hoping for your partner to change—their habits, their personality traits, their life goals – and believed that everything would be perfect ‘once they do’, you might have been in love with a potential that may never be realized

6) You didn’t feel safe being yourself

if you found yourself constantly modifying your behavior, hiding your true feelings, or suppressing parts of your personality to keep the peace or to be more appealing to your partner, this could be a sign that real love was missing from your relationship.

7) Your happiness depends on them

In a healthy relationship, happiness comes from within and is complemented by your partner, not dependent on them.

True love allows each person to maintain their individuality and find joy independently. It’s two whole individuals coming together, not two halves trying to complete each other.

8) Your pet didn’t like them

Pets are known to be great judges of character. If your beloved dog or cat never warmed up to your partner, it could be a sign that something was off.

9) You constantly made excuses for them

When we truly love someone, we hold them to a high standard because we believe in their capacity to meet it.

Making constant excuses for your partner’s actions could indicate that you were trying to convince yourself of the relationship’s viability, rather than it being a natural occurrence.

10) Love should feel good

It’s mutual respect, understanding, and a deep connection that makes you feel seen and appreciated for who you are. It’s being with someone who enhances your life and makes you want to be the best version of yourself.